My partner of a few years now (not married) is thinking about being trans. I love them with all my heart. I want to be supportive but I can't stop myself from wanting them to stay as they are. I want us to have the life and family I dreamed we'd have. I want them to be happy and I can't see living life without them. I'm scared, therapy is expensive so we haven't gone yet, at this point I don't even know what I would say.
I encourage them to explore different physical aspects like clothing and such and talk about what's going on in their mind. I want to understand this but I would also like for this to all just go away.
I feel like a horrible human being.
I know they won't change their personality but...I'm scared and sad and I can't even give an explanation as to why I feel this way.
I want to make their life happy. It makes me happy to see them happy. What if I am not happy with the transition? What if I can't? I don't want to be unable to be with them. I think if push comes to shove I would set my own feelings aside and just be there for them and make them happy.
They have loved me and taken care of me so well. They are so strong and confident and caring. I will not find anyone better and I don't want to.
I guess I'm just struggling with potentially saying goodbye to the life I wanted?
Anyone else is this situation?
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